​Tips for Moving with Children

Jennifer Coloma

Moving with children is never easy. The act of moving by itself is no walk in the park, with finding a home, planning the relocation, packing all the items, making sure finances are cleared, ensuring friends and family are aware, and so forth—adding children to the mixture can make moving appear impossible.

But with the right planning and the right interactions, you can make moving with your beloved children a thousand times easier. The following is a guide on how to move with children of all ages.
Suggest Moving

Although it seems odd to suggest moving to your child, it will actually make the act of informing them of the upcoming move much easier if you’ve already planted the idea in their brain. Doing this will also make the child feel as though they are part of the decision to move, which is crucial. As soon as you know there is a move in the future but don’t yet have the exact details, begin talking to your children about the concept of moving. Be sure to emphasize all the wonderful aspects of moving: getting a new and better room, painting their room a certain color, a bigger yard, a neighborhood with more children or playgrounds and sports fields, a nicer school, etc.

For example, if you have multiple children, maybe the benefit is that each child gets their own room; if you live in the city or an apartment and don’t currently have a yard, maybe the benefit is that you will have a yard with the next home; if you live in a school district that doesn’t offer recess time, maybe the benefit is that the new school district mandates recess; etc. For high school-age children, some benefits could be: a larger selection of electives, the opportunity to join a sports team, a school closer to home and therefore a shorter bus ride, etc.

With suggesting moving, the primary goals are to get your child to A) express what they would want out of a move and B) express excitement for the prospect of a potential move. By knowing what they want from a move in advance, you can then coordinate the upcoming move such that their wants/needs are met as closely as possible, further making the move easier. With older children, keep in mind that one of the hardest parts of a move is staying in touch with friends. Today’s technology makes staying in touch much easier than before, but it’s always good to bring up the various possibilities, from Skyping and texting friends to using social media. When possible, the ability to visit old friends is always a great item to bring up.
Inform Your Child of the Move

Once the move is certain, break the news to your child with a family meeting. Be sure to draw from earlier conversations and emphasize all the wonderful new parts of the move. If your move is a military relocation, then depending on the age of your child, they may be concerned that this isn’t a move but actually a deployment. In this event, clarify the difference between a move and a deployment and be sure to reassure them that you are staying.
Give Your Child Control

Ideally, at this stage, you’ve already given your child a sense of control by having them contribute their thoughts on what the new home should have to meet their particular needs. Once the move is underway, additional ways to give your child control include:

Assigning them a specific task to do on moving day, such as packing a special bag to take with them in the car, on the plane, on the train, etc. This will help keep them preoccupied while you’re packing and moving furniture. Children often have favorite toys that they’re particularly concerned about losing or prefer not to be without, so having them pack a special bag will help give them peace of mind and ensure those toys are safe during the move.

If traveling by car, include some of your child’s favorite snacks to help make the move an adventure. If you’re driving across the country, take it a step further and plan out a few stops at interesting places (museums, monuments, etc.) and rest stops where your child can get out and run around, such as playgrounds. Giving your child the chance to stretch their legs will help decrease the likelihood of an outburst from being cooped up in a car, and help tire them out so they’re more likely to nap through the drive.

Determining what their future room should look like by drawing it. Not everything can be incorporated, but this will tell you more about what your child is hoping to get out of the move, how to help them achieve it, and provide your child with a sense of control in the move.

Have your child create a pre-moving-day checklist of which items are especially important to pack, which should stay with them during the move, and so forth.

Have your child maintain a moving journal, such as the one we provide below, and document their journey from their old home to their new home. This journal will give them another outlet through which to express their emotions.
Getting Your Child to Pack

The child who has a lot of dolls, stuffed animals, action figures, or army men may not want to pack their toys for fear of the toy being frightened or injured. In this event, tell them that their toys need to go to sleep by being packed away during the move, otherwise they will be frightened and they may injure themselves in their fear. Once you’ve reached the new house, you can wake the toys up together by unpacking them; the toys will then be excited about being in a new home. This tactic works best on children under ten years old.
Listen to Your Child

Even very young children are capable of voicing their fears and concerns in some way. Be sure to listen to these concerns and answer any questions they have: acknowledging their worries will go a long way to alleviating them. As is the case with adults, children just want to be heard.
Maintain Your Child’s Routine

As challenging as this may seem during something so uncommon as moving, it’s important to maintain as much of your child’s typical routine as possible throughout the move and to reestablish it once in the new home. For example, if you have a ritual for going to sleep, maintain it even when the house has been mostly boxed up. If you eat a particular type of food on a certain day of the week, be sure to keep doing that as well. These routines will help ground your child and make the move appear less foreign and frightening, and more natural and exciting.
Be Prepared for Regression

Moving is just as stressful for your child as it is for you. As such, be prepared for your child to regress temporarily, especially if they’ve only recently been potty-trained. Regression may even occur after you’ve moved and as your child is adjusting to the new environment.
Enjoy the New Home Together

Home may be where the heart is, but it doesn’t always feel like that right away. It takes some work to make a house feel like a home. Even though there will be a lot of unpacking to do, take it slowly and unpack the items that make you and your children feel most comfortable and at home first. These small touches, such as favorite family photos and throw blankets, will help bring the house to life. In addition, a great way to welcome your children to their new home is to have a housewarming present waiting for them in their room, bathroom, or closet. If it’s a toy, you can encourage your child to show the toy their new home and go on a tour through the house – this will also help ease the transition for your child and give them an outlet to deal with any nervousness from the move.
Remember, children pick up very easily on emotional cues from their parents. If you’re nervous or agitated about the move, then your children will be similarly nervous and agitated. But if you’re excited about the move, then your children are much more likely to enjoy the move or at least handle it well.

Facing my biggest fear!

I know in the big scheme of things that this nothing, but it is a big thing for me. My fear of going blind, losing a foot or having a stroke has been “in my genes”as they say but I have ignored it. You know, if I don’t  acknowledge it then it won’t happen. Well this past week I have had to acknowledge it even though that all these years the last 52 years I have not wanted to. The term diabetes scares the bejesus out of me and it has happened. The doctor looked at me and told me that I am type 2 diabetic.  It could have been something worse but it was an eye opening statement still. So taking this time to reflect this past week and I have decided it is a sign to make changes. It is not a death sentence. So I have decided to make changes in my life to get rid of it. I cannot fathom losing my eyesight nor losing the ability to be mobile in a mobile world. It may be in my genes but so is alcoholism and I have beat that. So on my 52nd birthday I am making change so I can see and get to my daughters and sons weddings and see my grandchild when it happens. I enjoy seeing the sunrise and sunsets. The smiles on my clients faces hearing the clear to close, at closings and being able to see them move into the house they have saved for a very long time to get into. So how are we going to do this. I am occasionally write about my trip to beating diabetes and losing the fear of pricking my finger twice a day. And lose the prescription to the medicine does help me keep regular if you know what I mean. So how we going to do this, we are going to maintain and follow a regular diet which means I don’t know yet. That’s why I’m doing a lot of research to get the facts on how to use food to control and regulate my blood sugar. I am going to start walking a small amount so I can build up to a larger amount. And what the heck maybe even signed up to run a race. That’s a long-term goal on that one. If you don’t mind like I said occasionally I am write about my good days and my bad days and if you have any comments suggestions or thoughts please let me know. Because I know I am not the only one out there who’s in this situation and I’ll always use the experience of others to help me and guide me to a winning pass. So far my first experience which diabetes is the fear of the needle. I’ve had this fear of the needle foremost my life. I remember the first time I passed out was back as a freshman in high school in which I had to get a tetanus shot. The doctor had me in a chair asked if I felt ok and I said of course. I landed on landed on the floor. Since then, I get the sweats, increased pulse, and the anxiety of getting a needle put in my arm. It took me approximately 10 minutes my first sugar test yesterday do it. I did the test this morning and I almost got some blood on my finger. I think I hit the button and pulled it away from her finger about the same time. I did get some on the tab to give me a blood sugar rating. Going to hopefully have better luck this evening when I’m going to do it again. 

I’m off to my mom on Mother’s Day, and see my mother-in-law grave also today. The big stressor is what am I going to cook today for my wife and mother of two. She like starch and she likes her carbohydrates so it might have to be something with mashed potatoes and meat. Thank you if you made it this far in this posting and please leave any comments or thoughts the help me out. Thanks again!

The Utimate Mother’s Day Present

Is it too early to start thinking about Mother’s Day presents? I don’t think so! Even if you need a little extra time to close, we can do it together! You can tell I have been watching the Sweet 16 college basketball coachs interviews.

The Spring Market Open House Tour this week and next weekend is at my listing at 2000 Haflinger in the Dartmoor Plan of North Huntingdon. 

This brick and siding home is one of the newer homes in the plan at only a year and a half old. The home has a roomy two car garage and leads to the open room waiting for your touches to make it a game room or an office or as a workout room as the current family is utilizing.

 The main floor has a large family room which is openly connected to the kitchen which could handle at least two chefs! The upstairs has four bedrooms which have closets to get all of your seasonal fashions. The owners bedroom is very roomy and accompanied by a walk in closet. The owners bathroom is designedwith a double sink and an upgraded tiled shower. 

Please stop by on Sunday the 26th or April the 2nd from 1:00 to 4:00 for the Sunday Open Houses. The April 2nd will be a Showcase of Homes Open House and can be previewed during the Showcase of Homes TV Show from 11:30 to Noon on Channel 4 WTAE on the April 2nd.

If you can not make the Open Houses, please contact me at TomSullivan@HowardHanna.com to set a personal showing of 2000 Haflinger! 

Thanks for reading and if you have any comments, please leave them or email me! 

5 Ways to Stop Pests This Spring

 Elizabeth Grepp March 7, 2017  Blog

Spring is right around the corner, and with the warmer weather come bugs and pests of all kinds. Let Howard Hanna help you to pest-proof your home this spring with these suggestions.

Keep lids on trash cans. Food attracts insects and other pests, so as you go through your checklist of spring cleaning tasks, make sure this one is at the top of the list. Examine your outdoor trash cans to ensure that lids are tight fitting. You may also want to consider using garbage bags because it adds an extra layer of protection against creepy crawlers.

Keep your kitchen clean and tidy. Food is like a gourmet bug buffet, making the kitchen and pantry a hotspot. Use glass, plastic or sealable containers for storing products such as cereal. Remember, even random crumbs leftover from last night’s dinner may be enough to attract pests. Take out the trash frequently and promptly, and don’t leave dirty dishes in the sink or on the counter!

Screen your windows. With the warmer weather, it’s nice to open the windows and have the fresh air flowing! But, your window can be a door welcoming bugs into your home. Inspect your windows and doors to ensure that they’re in good working order. Then, fix any rips or tears that could let pests inside. If you have a patio door, invest in a sliding screen to make it harder for the bugs to come in and make your home theirs, too.

Don’t forget your lawn! Take a tour of your front and back yards to see where problem areas might be. First, clean gutters as they can become a breeding ground for bugs. Second, trim hedges which, if left unkempt, can become a highway for pests to travel easily from outdoors to indoors. Third, clean and tidy up your lawn! Move firewood away from the home, and pick up fallen fruits or nuts.

Check the exterior. Bugs can sneak into the home via openings or cracks and holes in the foundation. Look for any problem areas, and seal any cracks that you may find. By doing this, you’ll prevent them from getting in through the exterior. You may also want to do this check multiple times a year.

Incorporate these recommendations into your spring cleaning routine, and you’ll keep the bugs at bay this year and in the future

Cold weather tips

Us Northerners or should I say, most of us Northerners have a hate relationship with the “Cold Miser” and have some tolerances of the Heat Miser. We want to wish away the winter months. That is like three months of our life to give back to Father Time because of Mother Nature. So, I m here to help you through the winter months with some tricks and hacks on how to gain back time!

One of my favorite places to go to thaw out during the dark cloudy days is the Phipps Conservatory in Schenley Park.

First, it is warm in there to keep the vegetation living year round! It feels so warm in the summer but perfect in the winter. All the lush plants, flowers of every type are blooming with bright and cheery colors. It is Springtime 365 days a year. Then they also have special programs going on through the year to keep it new.

Another fun thing is to learn to cook a new dinner entre that requires the oven or stove top. I prefer the oven. That way it also heats up your home and the food you’re cooking is the aromatherapy for your stomach! My favorite right now is taking a pork roast or a beef roast and cooking it slowly with either Campbell’s Tavern Beef Slow Cooker sauce or Pulled Pork sauce. I use them interchange. The aroma is out of this world and the taste takes you farther than that! Some sandwich rolls and Mac and Cheese will carry you to Spring.

My last fun idea is to just bundle up and get outside for a walk in the neighborhood or a walking trail. Not only is it good to get some exercise but it also gets you out of the house. take in some new air. The house has been closed up for months now and it is getting a little stale. Another good reason is the walking with start working the serotonin. It is a fancy word for that good feeling from working out. It stimulates you brain and helps to keep the winter blues away.

If you have any other ideas that you use during these winter months, please share them. Also, if you have any suggestions, please add them too!

Thanks and have a great day! 

Gardening 101: Beginner’s Guide to Protecting Your Garden from Critters

Jennifer Coloma, July 15, 2016

Now that you have a few of the basics down with our Intro to Gardening: Beginner’s Guidelines, you may be wondering: how do you protect your garden from dogs, cats, birds, raccoons, and all the wildlife that lives in your neighborhood? If you own pets, you may even be wondering how to protect your garden from them while still keeping them engaged in the yard. At Howard Hanna Real Estate Services, we’ve done the research and compiled this handy guideline so you can spend less time guessing and conducting trial-and-error processes and more time enjoying your critter-free garden!

Pets

Dogs may be “man’s best friend,” but they can also be a “garden’s worst enemy.” Similarly, while cats are wonderful creatures and great hunters, they can also be a bit overly friendly with the plants – sometimes eating, trampling, or rubbing against them too affectionately. Here are some ways to keep your pets happy and your garden safe:

  1. Spicy & Bitter Plant-Based Repellents: Both dogs and cats, along with many other animals, dislike bitter and spicy plants. Use this natural repellent to protect your garden by either sprinkling it into the dirt or turning it into a liquid solution and spraying it on your plants. There are a variety of different combinations, from crushed dried peppers mixed with powdered mustard to coffee grounds with bitter orange or straight up chili pepper with water. Keep in mind that when taste-based repellents are sprayed on plants, they have to be reapplied after rain, and that they will affect the taste of food. So if you’re growing a vegetable garden and are allergic to peppers, avoid this tactic. Additionally, be careful when creating pepper-based sprays as pepper products are known to irritate eyes, skin, and your nose. Protip: coffee grounds not only repel dogs, but are also a great fertilizer!
  2. Pungent Plants: Some plants smell so terrible to animals that they don’t want to go anywhere near them. Plectranthus caninus (also called Coleus canina) is a mint-based herb that many call the “Scaredy Cat Plant” due to its ability to deter cats. No scientific research exists to back up the claim though, and a side-effect of the plant is that cats will often avoid the plant and go straight to more pleasant areas in your yard – such as your garden. Tall-growing varieties of lavender are reportedly more effective than the Scaredy Cat Plant and additionally have the benefit of smelling wonderful. If you’re aiming to experiment with different plants for one that repels cats or dogs, keep in mind that some plants are actually quite toxic and dangerous to your pet’s health. For some plants to avoid, check out this Houzz.com article featuring 22 different plants that you should keep away from your pets.
  3. Built-in Paths: Instinctually, dogs perform periodic patrols around the edges of their territory, trampling through your unfenced vegetable garden or gallivanting across the flowerbed, to ensure that their territory is safe and well protected. Instead of scolding them for trying to protect you, build a designated path around the perimeter of your yard that they can use for patrolling. If you’re using mulch as part of the path, take into consideration your dog’s fur coat, as finer mulch will cling to long-haired dogs and end up in your house or on your furniture. Protip: cedar chips are great ground cover to protect your dogs and cats from fleas!
  4. Catnip: For the overtly affection cat rubbing against all your plants, or the cat digging up your seedlings, provide them with catnip in an area away from your garden. The overpowering scent will attract them to this plant, as opposed to your garden, and they’ll spend their energies there. If you want to be sure your cat spreads their scent around your garden so wild animals won’t be enticed by the defenseless plants, then build a short fence around your garden and place the catnip outside of that fence.
  5. Digging Deterrents: Dogs dig. When addressing digging, first try to determine your dog’s end game: is it trying to cool off, to escape, to bury a toy, or to be distracted? As with building a path around your yard, you can be proactive and provide your dog with a designated digging spot to bury items and frolic, similar to a sandbox. Encourage your dog to use the sandbox by putting toys in there and praising them when they use it. For cooling off, provide a shady place to hide or a miniature pool to climb into. For escape artists, adding boards or chicken wire at or below the soil line is another good deterrent. Some people recommend planting periodic wooden stakes throughout your garden to make digging unpleasant; just be sure these are visible so they don’t harm your dog. For cats, placing obstacles such as bricks underneath the dirt and around your garden is an option.
  6. Designated Bathrooms: Some dogs just need a place to relieve themselves, or an item to mark as their own. Providing dogs with a specific part of the yard to call their own is a good way to keep your grass green and your plants from dying off. If you don’t want to deal with keeping the grass green in this designated spot, use gravel instead. It’s not only easy to wash off, but dogs also tend to prefer gravel to grass!

Wild Animals

The easiest way to get rid of many animals is to own cats or dogs and let them roam your yard freely. This isn’t always possible or the most animal-friendly option though, so here are some other methods of protecting your garden from wild animals:

  1. Egg Shells: Many animals, such as squirrels, raccoons, and rabbits, will dig up and eat plant seeds or eat the plants when they’re still small seedlings. At this stage, sprinkling broken egg shells on top of your garden and mixing them into the dirt is not only extremely effective at making digging an unpleasant activity but also a great fertilizer for those little seedlings.
  2. Fencing: Although not always attractive, often one of the best and most-effective ways of keeping all animals, including deer and birds, out of your garden is to build a tall fence around the entirety of it and to cover your plants with bird netting or chicken-wire cages. Raccoons are capable of digging but also dislike having anything stick to their paws, so draping bird netting on the ground is an effective countermeasure. Building the fence out of a material that animals cannot see through and attaching noise-makers to the fencing also work well.
  3. Removing Habitats: One of the simplest solutions is to make your yard unappealing to the average animal by removing the groundcover in which they would naturally hide or nest. For rabbits, this means removing low-growing shrubs, tall grass, and rock and brush piles from the immediate area around your garden. For groundhogs, be sure to block the area beneath any deck, porch, or shed. Otherwise, they’ll make themselves a cozy home.
  4. Predator Urine: If you don’t own a cat or dog and natural predators aren’t abundant in your area, then predator urine, such as coyote urine, is a good way to frighten off animals invading your yard. The predator urine will make them think it’s unsafe to inhabit your yard as a predator already lives there. Unfortunately, predator urine needs to be re-applied weekly and especially after rain. With large yards, pouring the liquid urine can get expensive. An alternative is hanging liquid urine dispensers; these only need monthly refills.
  5. Predator Decoys: In place of predator urine, another tactic is to place predator decoys around your garden. Owl statues frighten off raccoons and predator lights scare most other animals, from bunnies to dogs. The Solar-Powered Nite Guard, which costs $24 on Amazon, is waterproof and charged by sunlight. It automatically turns on at night and begins to emit a periodic flash of red light that frightens off many animals. For engineers, an alternative is to build and program your own solar-powered, motion-activated predator light with red LED lights and a Raspberry Pi. Just be sure to make your equipment water-proof in the event of rain.
  6. Electronic Repellents: Other electronic repellents, such as motion-activated sprinklers and timer-based vibrators, are great at targeting skittish groundhogs, moles, and chipmunks.
  7. Designating An Animal Garden: If you’re growing a vegetable or fruit garden, try blocking off your garden with a fence or caging and then creating a smaller, open and accessible garden in another area of the yard that is specifically for animals. Having this second garden will make attempting to get into your actual garden especially unappealing, as there is an easy food source in the same vicinity.

If all else fails, there’s always the option of moving all the plants indoors or hosting your own greenhouse vegetable garden! Having potted plants throughout the house has been known to drastically decrease stress and enliven the indoor environment. Just keep in mind that if your food garden has been moved inside, some plants need to be pollinated by wind or bees to produce vegetables or fruit, and so will need to be hand-pollinated.

If you have tips or techniques on keeping wild animals or pets out of your garden, we’d love to hear about them in the comment section below!

Tips from Howard Hanna: How to Keep Your Home Sparkling Clean

Jennifer Coloma, May 11, 2016

Keeping a home clean can be challenging, especially on a day-to-day basis. To make the process easier, we’ve compiled the following list on what parts of the home you should focus on cleaning each day, week, month, and season!

Daily:

  • Take out the garbage and the recycling.
  • Sweep the floors.
  • Wipe down surfaces in the kitchen, including the counter tops and the sink.
  • If you have a dishwasher, be sure to rinse dishes and store them in the dishwasher by the end of the day. The next morning, you can multitask with the dishwasher by running it while you’re out of the house. If you don’t have a dishwasher but have dishes coated with something hard-to-scrub, fill them with warm water and soap and let them sit overnight. It’ll make cleaning the dishes much easier the next day!

Weekly:

  • Clean the floors thoroughly by mopping, sweeping, or vacuuming, and vacuum upholstery.
  • Wash the laundry: the clothes, the towels, the bedsheets, etc.
  • Change the bedsheets.
  • Scrub bathroom fixtures: the toilets, the tubs, the sinks, and the showers.
    • Tip: If you have multiple bathrooms, let a cleaning agent work its magic in the toilets and on the showers while you clean the sinks and counters. When you’re done with them, it’ll make scrubbing the toilets and the showers much easier and faster!
  • Clean the mirrors.
  • Dust surfaces, objects, and shelves.
  • Wipe down appliances in the kitchen.
  • Throw out expired food from the refrigerator and check the expiration on anything that you don’t plan to eat soon: if it’s close to expiration, toss it out as well to prevent unwanted mold.

Monthly:

  • Clean both the microwave and the oven.
    • Tip: Use a cleaning spray that needs to soak for a few minutes to optimize cleaning. Let it sit and soak while you work on other items. When it’s done soaking, it’s much easier to clean as you won’t need to scrub as much, just wipe!
  • Wipe down all the kitchen and bathroom cabinets.
  • Get the details: wipe down the doorknobs, the lamps, and the light switches.
  • Wipe down the baseboards and vacuum the vents as well.
  • Disinfect and clean all the garbage cans.

Seasonally:

  • Air out the rooms and the draperies.
  • Clean the pantry and get rid of anything that’s expired.
  • Wash the pillows, the throw blankets, the comforters, and the duvets.
  • Sort through the closets and organize items into four piles: keep, donate, clean or repair, and store for the season.
  • Wash the windows and dust the windowsills.

Download the complete checklist here.

​Tips for Moving with Children

Jennifer Coloma
Moving with children is never easy. The act of moving by itself is no walk in the park, with finding a home, planning the relocation, packing all the items, making sure finances are cleared, ensuring friends and family are aware, and so forth—adding children to the mixture can make moving appear impossible.
But with the right planning and the right interactions, you can make moving with your beloved children a thousand times easier. The following is a guide on how to move with children of all ages.
Suggest Moving
Although it seems odd to suggest moving to your child, it will actually make the act of informing them of the upcoming move much easier if you’ve already planted the idea in their brain. Doing this will also make the child feel as though they are part of the decision to move, which is crucial. As soon as you know there is a move in the future but don’t yet have the exact details, begin talking to your children about the concept of moving. Be sure to emphasize all the wonderful aspects of moving: getting a new and better room, painting their room a certain color, a bigger yard, a neighborhood with more children or playgrounds and sports fields, a nicer school, etc.
For example, if you have multiple children, maybe the benefit is that each child gets their own room; if you live in the city or an apartment and don’t currently have a yard, maybe the benefit is that you will have a yard with the next home; if you live in a school district that doesn’t offer recess time, maybe the benefit is that the new school district mandates recess; etc. For high school-age children, some benefits could be: a larger selection of electives, the opportunity to join a sports team, a school closer to home and therefore a shorter bus ride, etc.
With suggesting moving, the primary goals are to get your child to A) express what they would want out of a move and B) express excitement for the prospect of a potential move. By knowing what they want from a move in advance, you can then coordinate the upcoming move such that their wants/needs are met as closely as possible, further making the move easier. With older children, keep in mind that one of the hardest parts of a move is staying in touch with friends. Today’s technology makes staying in touch much easier than before, but it’s always good to bring up the various possibilities, from Skyping and texting friends to using social media. When possible, the ability to visit old friends is always a great item to bring up.
Inform Your Child of the Move
Once the move is certain, break the news to your child with a family meeting. Be sure to draw from earlier conversations and emphasize all the wonderful new parts of the move. If your move is a military relocation, then depending on the age of your child, they may be concerned that this isn’t a move but actually a deployment. In this event, clarify the difference between a move and a deployment and be sure to reassure them that you are staying.
Give Your Child Control
Ideally, at this stage, you’ve already given your child a sense of control by having them contribute their thoughts on what the new home should have to meet their particular needs. Once the move is underway, additional ways to give your child control include:
Assigning them a specific task to do on moving day, such as packing a special bag to take with them in the car, on the plane, on the train, etc. This will help keep them preoccupied while you’re packing and moving furniture. Children often have favorite toys that they’re particularly concerned about losing or prefer not to be without, so having them pack a special bag will help give them peace of mind and ensure those toys are safe during the move.

If traveling by car, include some of your child’s favorite snacks to help make the move an adventure. If you’re driving across the country, take it a step further and plan out a few stops at interesting places (museums, monuments, etc.) and rest stops where your child can get out and run around, such as playgrounds. Giving your child the chance to stretch their legs will help decrease the likelihood of an outburst from being cooped up in a car, and help tire them out so they’re more likely to nap through the drive.

Determining what their future room should look like by drawing it. Not everything can be incorporated, but this will tell you more about what your child is hoping to get out of the move, how to help them achieve it, and provide your child with a sense of control in the move.

Have your child create a pre-moving-day checklist of which items are especially important to pack, which should stay with them during the move, and so forth.

Have your child maintain a moving journal, such as the one we provide below, and document their journey from their old home to their new home. This journal will give them another outlet through which to express their emotions.

Getting Your Child to Pack
The child who has a lot of dolls, stuffed animals, action figures, or army men may not want to pack their toys for fear of the toy being frightened or injured. In this event, tell them that their toys need to go to sleep by being packed away during the move, otherwise they will be frightened and they may injure themselves in their fear. Once you’ve reached the new house, you can wake the toys up together by unpacking them; the toys will then be excited about being in a new home. This tactic works best on children under ten years old.
Listen to Your Child
Even very young children are capable of voicing their fears and concerns in some way. Be sure to listen to these concerns and answer any questions they have: acknowledging their worries will go a long way to alleviating them. As is the case with adults, children just want to be heard.
Maintain Your Child’s Routine
As challenging as this may seem during something so uncommon as moving, it’s important to maintain as much of your child’s typical routine as possible throughout the move and to reestablish it once in the new home. For example, if you have a ritual for going to sleep, maintain it even when the house has been mostly boxed up. If you eat a particular type of food on a certain day of the week, be sure to keep doing that as well. These routines will help ground your child and make the move appear less foreign and frightening, and more natural and exciting.
Be Prepared for Regression
Moving is just as stressful for your child as it is for you. As such, be prepared for your child to regress temporarily, especially if they’ve only recently been potty-trained. Regression may even occur after you’ve moved and as your child is adjusting to the new environment.
Enjoy the New Home Together
Home may be where the heart is, but it doesn’t always feel like that right away. It takes some work to make a house feel like a home. Even though there will be a lot of unpacking to do, take it slowly and unpack the items that make you and your children feel most comfortable and at home first. These small touches, such as favorite family photos and throw blankets, will help bring the house to life. In addition, a great way to welcome your children to their new home is to have a housewarming present waiting for them in their room, bathroom, or closet. If it’s a toy, you can encourage your child to show the toy their new home and go on a tour through the house – this will also help ease the transition for your child and give them an outlet to deal with any nervousness from the move.
 
Remember, children pick up very easily on emotional cues from their parents. If you’re nervous or agitated about the move, then your children will be similarly nervous and agitated. But if you’re excited about the move, then your children are much more likely to enjoy the move or at least handle it well.